There is this unfortunate myth in our society that we need to “move on” and “heal” from loss and grief. This myth often arises at key points such as the day after the funeral, or the day a parent goes back to work again, or the one-year anniversary of the death or tragedy.
What needs to be understood is that these dates are often the hardest for a bereaved parent. These dates and many others function as milestones; as reminders of the child’s life that will forever be grieved.
Grief is eternal, because love is, and no one understands that better than the bereaved. Please acknowledge and honor this need to maintain connection even after death. Acknowledge that grief, like love, lasts as long as it needs.
Notes for the Support Team – Words Matter:
Original statement: It’s time to move on.
Rewritten: I understand you grieve for and miss your child. What can I do to help you honor them today?