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Adrian's Elephant

Adrian James Hernandez was stillborn on 30 June 2017. This site exists to honor his life and to provide resources to prevent stillbirth for other families.

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Adrian James Hernandez is the planned and wanted child of single-mother-by-choice Miranda Hernandez. Adrian was stillborn at the end of a term pregnancy in 2017 due to complications resulting from undiagnosed preeclampsia. This site exists to share his story, and to provide resources for bereaved families and those who support them.

Chronological Story | Letters to Adrian | Friends of Adrian

Miranda Hernandez is a writer and mother to Adrian and his younger sister, nicknamed “Peanut”. Miranda holds a degree in Literature and Writing from the University of California at San Diego, and has completed graduate work in statistical and data analysis. Miranda is grief positive, death positive, and an advocate for safe and informed pregnancy. She believes in mutual respect amongst all religious, spiritual, and cultural traditions, and is neutral on all other issues.

Chronological Story | Write Your Grief | Miranda’s Blog | Graphics Blog

The Sea Glass Parenting Community was formed in 2019 to bring together parents who have experienced the loss of a child at any age. Like sea glass, we are broken by circumstance and tumbled by time; like sea glass, we are unique, ever-changing, and always beautiful.

A private Facebook community for bereaved parents. If you have experienced the loss of the child, you are welcome here.

Explore your love and grief alongside a supportive community of fellow bereaved parents. Nominal fee; scholarships available.

A visual project capturing the beauty in the broken.

The Worst Part of Child Loss | Miranda holding Adrian's photo in the mountains of Kaua'i (Luna Kai Photography)

The Worst Part

Hearing the news was definitely the worst part. “There is no heartbeat.” It broke me. I fell. And the “worst” pieces just kept building.

Close-up image of spiky pink flower. Flower ihas both dark pink and light pink petals, and a peach center. The background is blurred. Taken in Assiniboine Park, Winnipeg, Manitoba (Miranda Hernandez)

Why I Choose to Share Photos of My Dead Child on Social Media

Our children are not shameful. They are beautiful, real people. In my opinion, the only shame comes from the perception that they should hidden away. I will never stop sharing photos of my deceased child, simply because he IS my child.

Found art of the California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

From one mother to another: A letter to the pregnant mother from one who is bereaved

The shock wears off, and we keep talking. You ask for details, or maybe you don’t. You start thinking. And now you are afraid for your child.

Roses on rocks in Hatley Park, Victoria, British Columbia

Everything Happens.

Everything happens, but not for a reason—It is wrong to spread the idea that everything in this life is normal; that everything we experience is necessary; that everything is okay. Violence is not okay. Rape is not okay. A child’s death is never okay. Sometimes, (often!) there genuinely is no reason

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