Notes for Bereaved Parents & Families

Thoughts to support you after the death of your child

Notes for the Bereaved -  You are allowed to have uncomfortable and inconvenient feelings. You are allowed to feel anger, shame, embarrassment, or guilt. You are allowed to feel jealous. Child loss is hard. Life in general is hard, and humans are imperfect creatures. Feel whatever you need to feel. - Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother
You are always always ALWAYS allowed to feel how you feel, with no obligation to cheer up, look on the bright side, or snap out of it. Your feelings are valid and so are you. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother
Notes for the Bereaved -  You don’t have to "heal" if you don't want to. Grief isn't a disease.  -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother
Grief is a selfish time. But being selfish is not inherently wrong. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother
You are under no obligation to be healed—Not today, and not at any point in the future. It is always always ALWAYS okay not to be okay. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother
There is no asterisk to the things that are allowed in the grief experience. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother

We talk so little about grief and loss in our culture, and this limits us in how we are able to support those we love after great loss. This is a collection of things I wish I had known or had permission to do when I was newly bereaved.

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