One of the things that bothered me in my early days of grief was this sentiment of “Just keep going. One day you can help other people through this too.”
The thing is, I don’t think that should be an obligation.
Plenty of people going through loss and grief find themselves struggling, months or even years later, and that’s okay. Loss and grief are hard. No one is required to overcome their pain or transform their struggles into anything.
Sometimes it’s an achievement simply to wake up in the morning, and make an effort at going about your day.
Related: Miranda’s Blog: Life
Sometimes it’s an achievement simply to exist.
Notes for the Bereaved:
You are under no obligation to turn your tragedy into something beautiful.
You are allowed, todays and always, simply to exist.
Miranda’s Blog: When you going through tough times, remember that life is about so much more than feel-good message you read online
Graphics Blog: Feelings are Always Valid
Graphics Blog: It’s okay to not be okay (as long as you don’t stay that way)
Resources for Bereaved Families