3 years and 3 months ago, Adrian James Hernandez was stillborn into this world. His death and subsequent birth has been the single most world-changing experience of my life.
In the years since Adrian’s death, life has grown different for me. For the first year, I mainly survived. For the second, I floated, trying to make sense of my new reality. In the third year, I started to find my feet again. I put more work into this website. I put more work into outreach and support. The day before Adrian’s third birthday, I wrote about a newfound sense of integration in my grief. I will never be “over” Adrian’s death, and I am okay with that. His death and my grief have become a beautifully permanent part of me.
Over the past several months, I have been working on new resources. I revamped my resources home pages, and added new pieces on funeral planning and ways to honor your child. I also started writing seriously about safe pregnancy, and then realized that subject needed its own venue. I look forward to launching a brand new pregnancy website after the new year.
3 years and 3 months ago, Adrian was born silent into this world. Tomorrow marks the first day of pregnancy and infant loss awareness month, and I find I want to shout his story—and all of our stories—from the rooftops. Do you find you want to do this too?
Below are some new resources created in honor of this month and my son, and in honor of all of our children gone too soon. Please feel free to share as openly and as widely as possible.
Together, we will break the silence. Together, we are less alone.