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I was telling my story to a coworker yesterday, an

I was telling my story to a coworker yesterday, and it surprised me when my eyes filled up with tears. Sometimes it still feels so surreal.⁠
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The words no one should ever have to write, and th

The words no one should ever have to write, and the most beautiful thing no one should ever have to need to own. #LifeIsStrangelyComplicatedlyBeautiful

A while ago I posted in my stories a picture of a

A while ago I posted in my stories a picture of a bracelet set I received in a subscription box. I'm not normally fond of the jewelry I receive in sub boxes; it's just not to my personal taste. But this one was special--it was a little bit odd, like what I like, and nestled among the beads was a tiny little elephant. I actually didn't even notice him until I had put the bracelets on, and then I rotated them and he was winking at me.

And I don't know, can you call that a sign? Does it count as a sign when something is so common? Elephants, after all, are pretty much everywhere. So I wouldn't call it anything special, though it was special to me.

And then P saw it on my wrist the next day. She's in her mimicry phase lately and she wants to do everything Mama does. I thought it would be cute to let her wear them while I was watching. And like any curious child, she tugged a bit on the elastic, and the elephant bracelet broke.

And please understand I'm not mad! I think I was sad for a moment, but honestly, it's okay. I collected all the beads, and I will probably hold on to them, but it's really not a big deal that it's broken. (It also reminds me of the sand dollar incident from 3 years ago, but that's another story)

Anyway, what I really wanted to talk about is the concept of fate, or "meant to be". I think if I believed in that, I might be more upset right now. I think if we believe in fate, it can cause us to look at events in a symbolic light, and maybe take things a little more hard when they go wrong. Or maybe try to find meaning in the random tragedies that fill our lives. Was Adrian *meant* to die? Was P *meant* to be an only child? I can't believe these things. And honestly, even if they are true, then to what purpose? It makes fate sounds quite cruel.

So no, I don't believe things in life are "#meanttobe". I think that concept ignores our tragedies and also our agencies. I think, overall, it minimizes. And our lives are worth so much more than that. Adrian's life is worth so much more than that.

P.S. I still love wearing my remaining bracelet.

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When I was overdue with my son, I did a lot of wal

When I was overdue with my son, I did a lot of walking. I swam in my friend's pool, and went shopping with my sister. I showed her around the nursery and pointed out everything prepared and waiting for my son to come home. And then on the morning I hit 41 weeks, I went to the doctor for a routine check up, and found out my son had died. ⁠
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And I will always wish someone had told me, like I am now telling you—The risk of stillbirth increases for every day a pregnancy proceeds past 39 weeks. And there is NO birth story more valuable than having your child come home, alive.⁠
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Sometimes even today.⁠ ⁠ #letterstoadrian #sti

Sometimes even today.⁠
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