People are going to feel uncomfortable about death and grief. It’s not something we talk a lot about in our culture, and like many other uncomfortable subjects, it sometimes feels “taboo” or wrong.
(I’d love to see that change).
The thing is, it’s not your job to make that change for society. It’s not even your job to comfort people who become discomfited by hearing your story.
That’s on them.
When you have experienced great loss and tragedy, it’s okay to focus on yourself and your own needs. In fact, it’s pretty darn necessary.