Something I’ve found interesting is that while our culture doesn’t talk much about stillbirth in general, often once I mention my experience, the person I’m talking to knows a similar story.
I think it’s a hallmark of our culture that we like to share such stories. It makes us feel less alone in the darkness, and this is only good.
What hurts, though, is when someone makes assumptions, or decides that because the circumstances of their loss are similar, that we must believe and feel the exact same things.
This of course isn’t true.
We are all individuals, and our experiences are going to differ widely, even when on the surface they look the same.
Notes for the Support Team:
Be cautious of projecting your experience or your feelings onto your loved one.
Even under similar circumstances, their experience is likely to be different than yours.