When your loved one is in pain, it’s only natural to think about “someday”—someday, this won’t be so sharp. Someday, your loved one won’t greet every sunrise with pain. It’s easy to think about that someday because it’s visible to you, already. It’s where you want your loved one to be.
What you need to understand is that your loved one isn’t there right now; they are here. And here, today, they are hurting. Here, today, they are in so much pain. And as much as you want to point them to “someday,” it is so much more important to acknowledge where they are today.
Because when someone is in the thick of grief, “someday” is pretty meaningless. And if they ever find themselves there, they will remember, most of all, who was able to sit with them when it hurt. Who was able to not turn away.
And yes, they may get there, eventually, but I promise you—they will feel most grateful for those who were willing to sit there in the suck, before “someday” was even visible.