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Brightsiding after Death and Loss

When Adrian died, people tried to find the “bright side” for me—”At least you got to be pregnant,” they said. “At least he wasn’t suffering.” What I needed people to understand is that this wasn’t useful; it was hurtful. Some things simply have no bright side. Please stop trying to find one.

Baby loss greeting card: I know that nothing can make up for this enormous loss, and so I won't point you to any non-existent 'bright side'. Instead, I will sit with you while it hurts. - Sea Glass Parenting

Nothing can make up for the loss of your child, so I will sit with you while it hurts (Customizable support card)

January 16, 2022

We are often tempted to look for the ‘bright side’ in loss, but sometimes there is comfort is acknowledging there isn’t one. Download this card to show your loved one you will sit with them when it hurts.

Some things have no bright side

November 13, 2021

We are conditioned to look for the silver lining in everything, but some things simply don’t have one. It’s okay to acknowledge that.

Look on the Bright Side

August 1, 2021

We are conditioned within modern society to look for the silver lining in every crappy day. For some things, this is fine. But when it comes to extreme loss and pain, there often isn’t a bright side.

Four-year-old girl sitting outside with her stuffed animal tiger. Image is close-up mainly of tiger in girl's arms (FamilyFotographer, Getty Images)

No, Daniel Tiger, Grown-Ups DON’T Always Come Back

February 5, 2021

For the most part, I love Daniel Tiger. It’s a cute show with some deeper elements, and some generally great life lessons. There are two areas, though, in which the show gets it wrong, and unfortunately these are big ones for me.

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