![Notes for the Support Team - Words Matter: Original statement: It wasn't your fault. Rewritten: I understand emotions can be complicated, and I'm never going to tell you how you should feel. I am here though, if you ever want to talk about things. I will always be an ear to listen. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/06/16181510/WordsMatter-It-Wasnt-Your-Fault-IG-300x300.png)
It wasn’t your fault
If you truly want to support someone who feels guilt, fault, or blame after the death of their child, then listen, acknowledge, and mirror back to them. This is so much more powerful and authentic than any glib phrase. Please don’t tell them “It wasn’t your fault”