Esquimalt Lagoon, Victoria, British Columbia, Canada (Miranda Hernandez)
Esquimalt Lagoon, Victoria, British Columbia, Canada (Miranda Hernandez)

034 – Mon, Sep 25, 2017 at 8:28 PM

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Esquimalt Lagoon, Victoria, British Columbia, Canada (Miranda Hernandez)I was sitting in the couch, wrapped in a towel. I had just gotten out of the shower. I wasn’t hungry, but I thought I should eat. Your Aunt Alexis* was going to make me spaghetti. I thought I would need the energy. We were talking about sauce when my water broke.

I think I was still pretty numb at that point. When I think about it now, I am angry. If I had gone into labor just 24 hours prior, you would be here today. How did my body get it backwards?

I felt the water rushing out of me. I noticed with such a detached feeling that it was almost like peeing, except I had no control. Then I looked down, and saw that it was all blood. My first thought was this was proof something was wrong with me. My second was that maybe I was dying.

I kind of woke up then. I had the paper from the hospital, with the number they had given me to call when I was ready to come in. They seemed calm, but told me to come now. Your Aunt had grabbed some towels and we made a crude diaper to wear as I waddled to the car. I was finally in labor.

~
* Names have been changed to protect privacy.

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035 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 11:09 AM

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066 – Mon, Dec 11, 2017, 8:16 PM

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104 – Sun, May 13, 2018, 3:04 PM

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021 – Thu, Jul 20, 2017 at 6:24 AM

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062 – Thu, Nov 23, 2017, 1:51 PM

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037 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 3:02 PM

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014 – Thu, Jun 29, 2017 at 6:53 PM

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112 – Sat, Jun 16, 2018, 3:59 PM

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110 – Sun, Jun 3, 2018, 9:11 AM

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088 – Thu, Feb 15, 2018, 6:40 PM

008 – 31w6d – One Last Road Trip

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023 – Fri, Jul 28, 2017 at 5:18 PM

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093 – Wed, Mar 21, 2018, 4:18 PM

025 – Sun, Aug 6, 2017 at 12:26 AM

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040 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 5:43 PM

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036 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 1:59 PM

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136 – Thu, Sep 12, 2019, 6:40 PM

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121 – Mon, Jul 23, 2018, 9:04 PM

007 – 29w6d – Cravings and a Nest

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064 – Wed, Nov 29, 2017, 4:36 PM

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085 – Fri, Feb 2, 2018, 10:09 PM

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107 – Sat, May 19, 2018, 2:02 PM

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071 – Mon, Dec 25, 2017, 6:45 PM

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122 – Tue, Jul 24, 2018, 9:28 PM

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083 – Mon, Jan 29, 2018, 5:09 AM

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118 – Fri, Jul 6, 2018, 7:43 PM

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113 – Sun, Jun 24, 2018, 1:02 AM

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089 – Sat, Feb 17, 2018, 3:55 PM

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129 – Tue, Jun 25, 2019, 9:11 PM

032 – Mon, Sep 18, 2017 at 9:24 PM

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019 – Sun, Jul 16, 2017 at 12:17 PM

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073 – Sun, Dec 31, 2017, 5:10 PM

013 – Thu, Jun 29, 2017 at 10:22 AM

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045 – Fri, Oct 13, 2017, 6:25 PM

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050 – Sun, Oct 29, 2017, 1:00 PM

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120 – Thu, Jul 19, 2018, 12:47 PM

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015 – Sun, Jul 2, 2017 at 8:19 PM

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