Staircase in California (Miranda Hernandez)
Staircase in California (Miranda Hernandez)

111 – Sun, Jun 10, 2018, 9:31 PM

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I thought I would be sad today. I had to do a sad thing. But it was necessary. And I’m realizing today that for a while, I had forgotten who I was. I had forgotten my purpose. But it found me. I’m writing again. I’m feeling inspired. I’m excited to share your story.

Excited.

I’m feeling excitement.

When I first started writing about you, I felt guilty to feel excitement. I felt guilty in that brief joy and how easily the words flew. The one bright spot in my life was in finding the right words to talk about how much I missed you. I miss you!

And I think I understand it now, at least partially. This missing has a meaning. It speaks to how I love you. How I will always love you.

So I write today. I write for your memory. I write for myself, the one left behind. I write for the person I was long before you. I write in her memory. I write for this time.

I thought I would be sad today. I am; more than I realized. I am sad, and I am lonely, and I love and I miss you. And. I’m feeling lots of “and.” I’m feeling more of the world. And it’s hard, and I’m still trying.

I saw a baby in a restaurant today. He was young, maybe about where you would be. I see you in him. I see you in everything.

I promised you I would be okay. I promised you, and I’m trying.

I love you.

Letters to Adrian are real letters from a mother to her stillborn child. Letters are shared here in periodic batches.

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080 – Sat, Jan 20, 2018, 4:09 PM

003 – 10w2d – A Little Bit of a Belly

Stream, North Lake Tahoe, California (Miranda Hernandez)

046 – Sun, Oct 15, 2017, 8:09 PM

Sunset on the California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

081 – Tue, Jan 23, 2018, 8:29 PM

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011 – 39w6d(1) – What does Mama look like?

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063 – Sun, Nov 26, 2017, 9:45 AM

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126 – Fri, Mar 29, 2019, 9:39 AM

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133 – Wed, Jul 3, 2019, 11:32 AM

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053 – Sun, Nov 5, 2017, 1:07 PM

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106 – Fri, May 18, 2018, 6:18 PM

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114 – Sun, Jun 24, 2018, 1:15 PM

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128 – Thu, May 23, 2019, 9:11 PM

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040 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 5:43 PM

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082 – Wed, Jan 24, 2018, 3:46 PM

013 – Thu, Jun 29, 2017 at 10:22 AM

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050 – Sun, Oct 29, 2017, 1:00 PM

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129 – Tue, Jun 25, 2019, 9:11 PM

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086 – Tue, Feb 6, 2018, 3:52 PM

020 – Tue, Jul 18, 2017 at 2:29 PM

005 – 19w6d – Happy New Year

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041 – Sat, Sep 30, 2017 at 8:30 PM

Tree and roots on the Haruru Falls trail, Waitanga, New Zealand (Miranda Hernandez)

122 – Tue, Jul 24, 2018, 9:28 PM

Sunset in California (Miranda Hernandez)

060 – Fri, Nov 17, 2017, 8:02 PM

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118 – Fri, Jul 6, 2018, 7:43 PM

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069 – Sat, Dec 23, 2017, 7:22 PM

026 – Sun, Aug 13, 2017 at 6:17 AM

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109 – Sun, May 27, 2018, 8:35 PM

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105 – Mon, May 14, 2018, 9:33 PM

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132 – Mon, Jul 1, 2019, 9:45 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant

100 – Sat, May 5, 2018, 5:30 PM

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115 – Sat, Jun 30, 2018, 1:03 AM

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094 – Fri, Apr 6, 2018, 11:46 PM

Pinecrest Lake, Pinecrest, California (Miranda Hernandez)

070 – Sat, Dec 23, 2017, 9:12 PM

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014 – Thu, Jun 29, 2017 at 6:53 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant at Northstar California Resort

089 – Sat, Feb 17, 2018, 3:55 PM

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066 – Mon, Dec 11, 2017, 8:16 PM

Adrian's Elephant

065 – Sat, Dec 2, 2017, 8:06 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant

104 – Sun, May 13, 2018, 3:04 PM

Dark and moody sunset over the ocean in Kaua'i, Hawai'i (Miranda Hernandez)

027 – Mon, Aug 14, 2017 at 12:15 PM

Winter in Chicago, Illinois (Miranda Hernandez)

097 – Wed, Apr 28, 2018, 11:08 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant with Bumblebee

051 – Tue, Oct 31, 2017, 5:32 PM

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124 – Tue, Sep 4, 2018, 9:00 PM

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096 – Tue, Apr 24, 2018, 11:09 PM

Empty bench, California (Miranda Hernandez)

058 – Tue, Nov 14, 2017, 7:10 PM

031 – Fri, Sep 8, 2017 at 12:16 AM

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035 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 11:09 AM

004 – 12w1d – Your Tiny Feet

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130 – Thu, Jun 27, 2019, 9:31 PM

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074 – Sun, Dec 31, 2017, 7:59 PM

Bench on the California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

078 – Mon, Jan 15, 2018, 11:32 AM

Adrian James 3 - Feaure

016 – Wed, Jul 5, 2017 at 6:58 AM

Adrian's Elephant and Miranda's uniform top

056 – Fri, Nov 10, 2017, 8:29 PM

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103 – Sat, May 12, 2018, 5:32 PM

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095 – Fri, Apr 13, 2018, 10:23 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant on the California coast (photo used with permission)

055 – Fri, Nov 10, 2017, 6:48 PM

California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

084 – Thu, Feb 1, 2018, 8:44 PM

Koloa, Kaua'i, Hawai'i (Miranda Hernandez)

092 – Tue, Mar 20, 2018, 2:26 PM

Hyacinth flowers, Victoria, British Columbia (Miranda Hernandez)

059 – Wed, Nov 15, 2017, 7:52 PM

Adrian's Elephant and Star Registry certificate

113 – Sun, Jun 24, 2018, 1:02 AM

029 – Tue, Aug 22, 2017 at 9:50 PM

Snow in Chicago, Illinois (Miranda Hernandez)

101 – Sun, May 6, 2018, 12:13 AM

018 – Sun, Jul 9, 2017 at 1:32 PM

012 – 39w6d(2) – So close!

024 – Wed, Aug 2, 2017 at 6:13 PM

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127 – Thu, May 2, 2019, 12:03 PM

Miranda's maternity photo (Modern Lux Photography)

067 – Tue, Dec 12, 2017, 9:42 PM

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021 – Thu, Jul 20, 2017 at 6:24 AM

008 – 31w6d – One Last Road Trip

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098 – Thu, Apr 29, 2018, 8:58 PM

California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

076 – Wed, Jan 10, 2018, 11:47 AM

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120 – Thu, Jul 19, 2018, 12:47 PM

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139 – A Letter to My Son on His Third Birthday

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043 – Wed, Oct 4, 2017, 7:43 PM

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062 – Thu, Nov 23, 2017, 1:51 PM

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017 – Thu, Jul 6, 2017 at 6:24 AM

025 – Sun, Aug 6, 2017 at 12:26 AM

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068 – Sat, Dec 16, 2017, 9:55 PM

030 – Mon, Aug 28, 2017 at 6:21 AM

Rocks on the California Coast (Miranda Hernandez)

049 – Tue, Oct 24, 2017, 5:26 PM

California Coast, Big Sur (Miranda Hernandez)

045 – Fri, Oct 13, 2017, 6:25 PM

Park in Chicago, Illinois (Miranda Hernandez)

099 – Wed, May 2, 2018, 7:46 PM

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054 – Mon, Nov 7, 2017, 8:10 PM

Pier, Paihia, New Zealand (Miranda Hernandez)

042 – Mon, Oct 2, 2017, 6:14 PM

Bridge in California (Miranda Hernandez)

102 – Fri, May 11, 2018, 11:56 AM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant (Miranda Hernandez)

077 – Fri, Jan 12, 2018, 2:38 PM

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137 – Tue, Dec 31, 2019, 10:01 PM

Miranda holding a white onesie towards the camera

010 – 38w4d – Almost there…

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023 – Fri, Jul 28, 2017 at 5:18 PM

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047 – Thu, Oct 19, 2017, 4:54 PM

007 – 29w6d – Cravings and a Nest

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125 – Fri, Oct 19, 2018, 1:08 PM

009 – 33w2d

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034 – Mon, Sep 25, 2017 at 8:28 PM

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134 – Tue, Jul 23, 2019, 1:34 PM

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037 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 3:02 PM

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052 – Wed, Nov 1, 2017, 8:08 PM

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087 – Wed, Feb 7, 2018, 4:16 PM

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136 – Thu, Sep 12, 2019, 6:40 PM

Waves on Lake Tahoe, California (Miranda Hernandez)

085 – Fri, Feb 2, 2018, 10:09 PM

Adrian's Elephant and Romeo

064 – Wed, Nov 29, 2017, 4:36 PM

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057 – Tue, Nov 14, 2017, 6:28 PM

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061 – Wed, Nov 22, 2017, 7:01 PM

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090 – Sat, Feb 24, 2018, 5:12 AM

019 – Sun, Jul 16, 2017 at 12:17 PM

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091 – Sun, Mar 11, 2018, 1:10 PM

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036 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 1:59 PM

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071 – Mon, Dec 25, 2017, 6:45 PM

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083 – Mon, Jan 29, 2018, 5:09 AM

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015 – Sun, Jul 2, 2017 at 8:19 PM

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116 – Sat, Jun 30, 2018, some time in the morning

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048 – Sat, Oct 21, 2017, 8:37 PM

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039 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 4:16 PM

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044 – Thu, Oct 12, 2017, 6:52 PM

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107 – Sat, May 19, 2018, 2:02 PM

Adrian and Elephant

131 – A Letter to My Son on His Second Birthday

006 – 20w0d – Are you dancing?

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088 – Thu, Feb 15, 2018, 6:40 PM

028 – Wed, Aug 16, 2017 at 6:07 PM

001 – Hello

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093 – Wed, Mar 21, 2018, 4:18 PM

Street art in Victoria, British Columbia (Miranda Hernandez)

135 – Wed, Aug 28, 2019, 8:04 AM

Adrian's necklace on bluebonnets, California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

138 – Thu, Feb 6, 2020, 11:39 AM

Miranda and Elephant on the California coast

117 – A Letter to My Son on His First Birthday

Sunset in California (Miranda Hernandez)

073 – Sun, Dec 31, 2017, 5:10 PM

View through the plants on the Haruru Falls trail, Waitanga, New Zealand (Miranda Hernandez)

119 – Wed, Jul 18, 2018, 1:10 PM

Adrian's Elephant

072 – Sat, Dec 30, 2017, 10:51 AM

Close up of metallic artwork in rustic red blending into blues and greens, found in California (Miranda Hernandez)

022 – Fri, Jul 21, 2017 at 12:18 AM

Dandelions over Te Ti Bay, Waitanga, New Zealand (Miranda Hernandez)

121 – Mon, Jul 23, 2018, 9:04 PM

Nasturtium flowers in Big Sur, California (Miranda Hernandez)

112 – Sat, Jun 16, 2018, 3:59 PM

Waimea Canyon, Kaua'i, Hawai'i (Luna Kai Photography)

038 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 9:36 AM

Riverwalk from the shadows, San Antonio, Texas (Miranda Hernandez)

108 – Sat, May 26, 2018, 11:02 AM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant on the California coast (photo used with permission)

075 – Tue, Jan 9, 2018, 10:04 PM

Painted rock found on the Haruru Falls trail, Waitanga, New Zealand (Miranda Hernandez)

123 – Wed, Aug 29, 2018, 3:16 PM

033 – Tue, Sep 19, 2017 at 6:35 PM

032 – Mon, Sep 18, 2017 at 9:24 PM

California coast in Big Sur, California (Miranda Hernandez)

110 – Sun, Jun 3, 2018, 9:11 AM

002 – 7w3d – Pickles and ice cream?

Sunset on the California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

079 – Wed, Jan 17, 2018, 4:24 PM

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