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Sometimes it Just Needs to Suck

It feels like we are conditioned to look on the bright side of every dark situation, but sometimes there isn’t one. Sometimes, things just need to suck

Sometimes it Just Needs to Suck

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STILL grieving? Yes, I am still grieving.⁠ ⁠ I

STILL grieving? Yes, I am still grieving.⁠
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I am still grieving, because the work of grief is never done.⁠
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I am still grieving, because I put into my grief what I cannot put into life with my son.⁠
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I am still grieving, because he is STILL, and will always, be dead.⁠
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I am still grieving, because grief has no ending; grief lasts as long as love.⁠
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And so maybe, instead of "still," you would understand it better if I said "always":⁠
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Always grieving.⁠
Always loving.⁠
ALWAYS my child's mom.⁠
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#ajhgraphics #stillbirth #childloss #babyloss #miscarriage #pregnancyloss #infantloss #pregnancyandinfantloss #bereavedparents #bereavedparenting #stillbornstillloved #stillbirthquotes #babylossawareness #honoryourchild #parentinginloss #lifeafterloss #grief #griefisforever #griefislove #seaglassparenting

"There are two versions of me. In one version I kn

"There are two versions of me. In one version I know I did everything I could. My worst regret is drinking half a can of Red Bull on those mornings I struggled to get out of bed. In that reality, I know it’s not my fault. I loved you more than life itself."⁠
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I also feel I could have taken better care of you. I could have made better choices, and you would probably be living.⁠
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And before anyone responds to that, I want to also say: IT'S OKAY THAT I FEEL THIS WAY. Because feelings are ALWAYS valid, even when they're complicated.⁠
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And if you feel this way, too—I see you.⁠
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#letterstoadrian - Read the full letter at the link in bio.⁠
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#stillbirth #childloss #babyloss #infantloss #pregnancyandinfantloss #stillbirthstory #stillbirthblog #grief #griefstories #griefquotes #alternatereality #whatshouldhavebeen #letterstothedead #loveletterstothedead #guiltafterloss #guiltafterdeath #blame #fault #guiltfaultblame #feelingsarecomplicated #feelingsarecomplicatedandthatsokay

Do you ever see things one way, and then change yo

Do you ever see things one way, and then change your mind? That's kind of how I feel about this rock formation. When I first saw it, it looked like an elephant, but maybe I just needed to see an elephant that day. Today, it looks more like a turtle. What do you see?⁠
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#mirandasrandommusings

One of the many pain points in #lifeafterloss.⁠

One of the many pain points in #lifeafterloss.⁠
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#stillbirth #childloss #griefquotes #griefmemes #ajhgraphics

Got bitten by the cleaning bug yesterday, and foun

Got bitten by the cleaning bug yesterday, and found this old letter from myself. Written to 18-year-old me, it got delayed somewhere along the way, and I received it late last year. Man, how life and plans have changed!

I vaguely remember writing this letter. I was in 7th grade at the time, a whole world ahead of me. I wanted to be a writer, even then, and as I reminded myself, I hated wearing dresses. And this line stands out to me: "The one thing you wanted most out of life was to succeed at whatever you set out to do." I was full of such energy.

And while I remember writing this letter, I don't remember asking my friends to write postscripts, though it does seem like something I would do. And even in something as simple as this, the moments still sneak up on you. From an egg-baby in seventh grade Life Skills to a human baby who couldn't stay...and now Adrian's living sister in my arms. Life is so strange.

And I am still thankful for these reminders.

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(And if you happen to be a teacher wondering if it is worthwhile to assign these kinds of things, I can tell you, unequivocally--yes).

And PS to dear Stacy--god is never coming back.

#lifeafterloss #lifeafterstillbirth #memoriesofmychildhood

Musings from 2018: "There’s a house on my walk f

Musings from 2018: "There’s a house on my walk full of daisies. I told the gardener I didn’t realize that they grew in bushes. I would like bushes of white daisies in our backyard. I would like bushes of daisies everywhere.⁠
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I feel like I checked out this past week. I’ve never been very good at being sick. It’s so easy to go from excitement and participation to wondering, “Why am I here?”⁠
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And I realize I just said “excitement” above and I don’t know how I feel about that.⁠
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I’ve been doing so much work on your website. It’s the first thing to really give me purpose. And I come back to myself, sometimes, and I remember those moments when I struggled to do anything, when I wondered if I would ever really be alive. I miss those times. Grief felt simpler, then. More immediate."⁠
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#letterstoadrian (link to full letter in bio)⁠
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#stillbirth #childloss #babyloss #infantloss #pregnancyandinfantloss #stillbirthstory #stillbirthblog #grief #griefstories #griefquotes #lifeafterloss #findinglifeafterloss #griefproject #excitementandregret #checkingoutoflife #letterstothedead #loveletterstothedead⁠
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And something more about #daisies coming soon...

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