I think our culture idealizes those who use their loss or pain as an impetus for personal growth. While I don’t object to how anyone else chooses to live after loss, I do think it’s important to acknowledge that no matter how much growth is achieved, it is never worth the cost. I would certainly give it all up to have my son at home.
I have grown as a person since the death of my son. But I would give up everything I’ve gained to have not had a reason to.