A deceased child’s birthday can be an emotionally heavy time. Use this card to express your personal wishes for the bereaved family on the birthday of their deceased child.
Better things to say to someone who is grieving
Thinking of you on your child’s birthday and holding you in my heart with love (deceased birthday remembrance card)
A deceased child’s birthday is still a birthday. Use this card to express your love and support for the bereaved parents and their child on the child’s birthday.
You don’t have to have met a deceased child for him or her to make an impact on your world. Use this card to share with the bereaved parents in your life that you remember them and their child on their child’s birthday.
One firecracker shines so much brighter, it leaves an imprint across the sky (Customizable remembrance card)
When a child is gone, their absence is felt everywhere. Holidays can be an especially hard time. Use this card to show you loved one you remember their child even in the midst of the busiest of celebrations.
In your arms or in your heart…Honoring you this Fathers Day (Customizable Baby Loss Fathers Day card)
Bereaved fathers are fathers, whether their children live or not. Download this card to show the bereaved father in your life that you remember them on Father’s Day.
One of the many ways to honor a deceased child on their birthday is to make a charitable donation in their honor. Use this card to show your bereaved loved ones that you honor their child’s birthday with them.
In your arms or in your heart…Honoring you this Mothers Day (Customizable Baby Loss Mothers Day card)
Motherhood exists in so many forms. Download this card to show your bereaved loved one you honor their motherhood at Mothers Day and always.
No parent should ever have to say goodbye to their child. Download this card to show you loved one you understand the enormity of this loss.
The death of a child often turns the world dark. Download this card to show your loved one you are there for them in this darkest of times.
Sometimes we need to be blunt about how much it hurts to lose a child. Download this card for a loved one who appreciates outspoken support.
The death of a child hurts long after the funeral is over. Download this card to express to your loved one that you remember their pain and honor their love, no matter how many years it’s been.
It can be comforting to know your deceased child is remembered, even years after they are gone. Download this card to show your loved one you honor and remember their lost child.
The death of a child can leave their parents’ arms achingly empty. Download this card to show your loved one you understand there is no better place for their deceased child than here with them on earth.
There are as many ways to grieve as there are grievers, and each way is valid. Download this card to show your loved one you support them in all the ways they need.
There are never going to be perfect words; words that take away the pain. And so we offer the best words we can: I’m sorry. I love you. I’m here. Download this card to show your loved one you are with them when it hurts.
Nothing can make up for the loss of your child, so I will sit with you while it hurts (Customizable support card)
We are often tempted to look for the ‘bright side’ in loss, but sometimes there is comfort is acknowledging there isn’t one. Download this card to show your loved one you will sit with them when it hurts.
Friends and family may misstep at times after loss, or struggle with saying the ‘wrong’ thing. But sometimes, we find someone who gets it right. Who was that person for you? What did they do or say that brought you comfort? How did that make you feel? How does it make you feel today?
It can be surprisingly helpful to acknowledge that you aren’t an expert about your loved one’s loss, but that you are open to listening. Download this card to show your loved one you are a safe place to share their pain.
People often feel obligated to find a silver lining in every tragedy, but sometimes, there simply isn’t one. This card is a good way to show your loved one that you acknowledge the enormity of a situation that just sucks.
One of the things bereaved parents want most is to know that their child is remembered. One of the best ways to do this is to say their child’s name. Download this card to show your loved one you acknowledge their child today and always.
Sometimes the most comforting thing to say after loss is also the simplest: “I love you. I’m so sorry this happened”. Download this card to show your loved one you care.
There seems to be this consensus in parts of the loss community that you have to move forward or “heal” from your grief. I don’t believe this is true.
Loss can be complicated. People can be unintentionally cruel. It’s okay to say, “I’m not interested in discussing this.” Your story and your grief belong to YOU alone.
I think sometimes we feel pressure to be only positive, cheerful, and focus on healing after loss. To be honest, this feels like BS to me. I’d rather focus on what may be uncomfortable, but is miles more real.
“I’m here if you ever want to sit in awkward silence.”
As odd as it sounds, this is one of the most supportive messages I received after the death of my son.
We are conditioned within modern society to look for the silver lining in every crappy day. For some things, this is fine. But when it comes to extreme loss and pain, there often isn’t a bright side.
If you know a parent with both a living and deceased child, it’s something to be aware of. Because the most supportive thing you can say in that situation is to acknowledge the work that goes into raising and grieving, simultaneously.
Even in the face of great tragedy, people often feel pressured to put a positive spin on things; to find the silver lining in the dark. I won’t do with you. Sometimes the most meaningful thing anyone can say is, “This fucking sucks.” Because it does.
Often, when I share about my deceased child, that’s all I’m looking for: An ear. A person to open their heart to experience. Someone to take a moment in their day to read and acknowledge, without trying to analyze me.
Loved ones often want to cheer you up after loss, but sometimes, you don’t want or need to find cheerfulness. Sometimes (often!), you need to just sit and grieve. “Let’s cheer you up” can be hurtful after loss. Acknowledgement is so much more supportive.