Speaking as a former CASA, adoption is an inordinately beautiful thing. It is also often used as a generic straw solution to the “problems” of child loss and infertility. Please don’t push adoption on the infertile or the bereaved. Listen to their feelings. If it’s right for them, they will bring it up when it’s time.
Notes for the Support Team – Words Matter:
Original statement: Have you thought about adoption?
Rewritten: I understand the idea of having children after loss is complicated. I’m never going to push you or ask you questions you aren’t ready to answer. I’m here though, if you ever want to talk about it.
Related Posts:
Miranda’s Blog: Why I Didn’t “Just Adopt”
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