There is no asterisk to the things that are allowed in the grief experience. -Miranda Hernandez, Adrian's Mother

There is no Asterisk to the things Allowed in Grief

Miss him as much as you need…
*but not too much.

Cry as hard as you need…
*but not too hard.

Take as long as you need…
*but not too long.

Do any of these sound familiar?

It’s something I experienced, early in my grief: Do what you need, *but understand that eventually you will have to stop grieving and move on.

And man, does this hurt!

Because who defines this concept of “too much” of anything? Is it really possible to have too much grief?

I don’t think so.

Notes for the Bereaved:
There is no asterisk to the things that are allowed in the grief experience.

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