Please don’t ask me how I’m doing unless you’re prepared to hear the truth

Miranda Hernandez

I never really considered that question, “How are you?” until after the death of my son. And then it became the bane of my day.

Please don’t ask me how I’m doing unless you’re prepared to hear the truth.

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