People are going to feel uncomfortable about death and grief. It’s not something we talk a lot about in our culture, and like many other uncomfortable subjects, it sometimes feels “taboo” or wrong.
(I’d love to see that change).
The thing is, it’s not your job to make that change for society. It’s not even your job to comfort people who become discomfited by hearing your story.
That’s on them.
When you have experienced great loss and tragedy, it’s okay to focus on yourself and your own needs. In fact, it’s pretty darn necessary.
Downloadable graphics for “Notes for the Bereaved: It’s not your job to make other people feel comfortable”:
![This random act of kindness performed in memory of : [fill in the blank]. Please pass the kindness along to help keep their memory alive.](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/18095256/Act-Of-Kindness-In-Memory-Of-Card-2.png)
![Birthday wishes after death card: Thinking of you with love on your child's Birthday. [Blank inside.] - Sea Glass Parenting](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/26130137/SGPCardFlat-Thinking-Of-You-On-Your-Childrens-Birthday-Envelope-Heart-Blank-Inside-IG-12.jpg)
![Baby loss greeting card: In honor of the birthday of [fill in the blank], I have made a donation to [fill in the blank] - Sea Glass Parenting](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/05/22174434/SGPCardFlat-In-Honor-Of-Your-Childs-Birthday-I-Made-A-Donation-To-IG-9.jpg)
![The month of October is Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness month. Honoring all children lost too soon, including my child: [fill in the blank] - Sea Glass Parenting](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/09/30130345/Pregnancy-And-Infant-Loss-Awareness-Month-In-Honor-Of-My-Child-1-3.jpg)
![Birthday message for deceased child card: Happy Birthday, [Fill in name]. I love you - Sea Glass Parenting](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/06/26130207/SGPCardFlat-Happy-Birthday-I-Love-You-Fill-In-Name-Birthday-Cake-IG-8.jpg)
!["This is my [Fill in the Blank] Mother's Day. Thank you for remembering and honoring my child and my motherhood this year" in blue text inside a white circle surrounded by a yellow abstract design. Five pink and green flowers surround the image.](https://adrianselephantpanda2.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/04/27094844/4.png)
