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My pain has a purpose

People often seek to comfort or otherwise minimize pain, but I need people to understand that my pain has a purpose; it speaks to the love I hold for my child, and it’s important to me.

I wish I could take your pain away

March 31, 2021

I think something that isn’t realized about loss is that pain after loss is sometimes important; it’s a measure of the strength of the love that remains. Instead of wanting to remove that pain, consider giving it a place. Listen without judgement. Let your loved one’s complicated feelings exist.

My pain has a purpose

July 10, 2020

I understand your intentions in wanting to take away my pain. It’s hard to see someone you love hurting. It’s hard to acknowledge there’s nothing you can do. What I need you to understand: (My) pain has a purpose. It speaks to the love I hold for my child. In seeking to take it away, you take away my love as well. You take away ME.

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My pain has a purpose

I wish I could take your pain away

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