We hear a lot about the power of nature and avoiding things that are heavily processed to keep ourselves safe. I think it is important to remember: What is safe is not always natural & What is natural is not always safe.
In the United States today, 1 in 160 pregnancies ends in the death of the child at or after 20 weeks gestation. This is not rare. This is in fact a freaking emergency.
When I was pregnant for the first time, I heard that babies come when they’re ready, and so I allowed my pregnancy to go overdue. I wish I had known this wasn’t always true
There is a trend in our modern world towards doing things in the most “natural” way possible. This has become exceptionally big in childbirth and child care circles. I think what is unfortunately not well understood is that the most biologically normal thing in the world is death.
Survivor’s bias is a logical fallacy that equates the experience of those who survived an experience with “proof” that such an experience is safe.
When I was pregnant for the first time, I had no idea stillbirth was a realistic possibility; certainly not something that happened in 1 out of 160 pregnancies. Please educate your patients on the stats, risks, and warning signs. We deserve this information.
I chose to go overdue in my first pregnancy, believing labor was best when it happened naturally. These printable brochures talk about my experience.
I think there is a common assumption that talking about the death of your child means you are struggling. This isn’t true. Death happens, and it shouldn’t be taboo to talk about it. I personally talk about Adrian’s death a lot, because the best way to honor his memory is to ensure his tragedy doesn’t happen to anyone else’s child.