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Permanence of death

One of the harder parts of living without my son is continually relearning the meaning of the permanence of death. Because he didn’t just die on the day before his birth; he dies again every morning I wake up without him.

Sea Glass Parenting Grief Awareness print: "Still grieving? Still dead? Still a parent" - Always grieving. Always dead. Always a parent." in blue and white lettering on a gradient green-blue background

Still vs. Always: Grieving; Dead; My Child’s Parent—Grief Awareness (5″ x 7″ printable)

September 25, 2022

This grief awareness print explains that grief lasts as long as death, and you will always be your child’s parent, even and especially after their death.

Death Changes You. Permanently.

June 28, 2020

The death of my son changed me as a person more than any other event in my lifetime. The death of a loved one does that.
Death changes you. Permanently.

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant on the California coast (Synch Media)

Second Eulogy

June 30, 2018

My son, Adrian James Hernandez, was stillborn exactly one year ago today. And his loss was the first time in my life where there was nothing I could fight and nothing I could do or say. These are my reflections on the past year since his death.

Title: Grief is a Mother, Too | overlaid on an image of Miranda and Elephant on the coast at sunset (Synch Media)

2 Feb 2018 – Grief is a Mother, Too

February 2, 2018

Death has never been my friend. The necessity of her existence is no more comfort than my own. I don’t hate her, but I look at her the way she looks at Disease. We are all harbingers. We all bring Pain.

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