7 Feb 2018 – Tests

Miranda Hernandez
February 7, 2018

My new doctor is listening, and he’s sending me for tests.

And I’m starting to feel like I have the beginnings of liver failure, and nobody has caught it, and I’m holding on to so much anger.

So many people run away from my questions, but I still have questions, I deserve more than this.

My son should be living, this is not enough.

I will never back down. I will never forget.

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Categories: Anger is a Huge Part of Grief, WYG Round 1, No Prompt
Tags: Anger and rage after loss, The war between nature and medicine that cost my son his life

Posts written in response to prompts from Megan Devine’s Refuge in Grief writing program.
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