“Have another baby” as if children as interchangeable (Archives)

“Have another baby” as if children as interchangeable

Parents of deceased children are often urged to “have another baby,” as if children are replaceable. They aren’t, though. Children are unique and individual human beings.

Blue dawnflowers at St Katharines’s Parmoor, Buckinghamshire, England (Miranda Hernandez)

Why I Didn’t “Just Adopt”

May 23, 2020

Before I was pregnant for the first time, I looked at adoption from foster care. There are so many unwanted children, I reasoned, and I could be a means of giving them a home. Sometimes I marvel today at that simplistic attitude. Because adoption, even from foster care, isn’t simple.

Flowers at St Katharines's Parmoor, Buckinghamshire, England (Miranda Hernandez)

My experience as a pseudo-rainbow baby

April 2, 2019

My parents never talked to us about their losses, and I blame their generations. (Publicly) holding onto grief was something that wasn’t done. And so this grief was whispered, held tightly under cover, impacts erased before they could be explored. But these erasers only took away the surface.

8 January 2019; Two Years of Memories and Looking to the Future

January 8, 2019

Two years ago, I was happily pregnant and sadly naïve. I had no idea babies could die. Today, I am pregnant for the second time, eyes wide open and hopefully dreaming.

“Have another baby” as if children as interchangeable (Archives)