028 – Wed, Aug 16, 2017 at 6:07 PM

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There are two versions of me. In one version I know I did everything I could. My worst regret is drinking half a can of Red Bull on those mornings I struggled to get out of bed. In that reality, I know it’s not my fault. I loved you more than life itself.

On other days, things are different. I was so stubborn. I held on because I wanted the perfect birth story. I ignored the protocols because my body should have been enough. I failed you. I let you die.

The first version would forgive me for not knowing you were dying inside of me, but the second says it was my job to know. It was my job to keep you safe.

Both versions live inside of me. Both versions hurt, and cry, and rage. I miss you so much. My arms ache.

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Letters to Adrian are real letters from a mother to her stillborn child. Letters are shared here in periodic batches.

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081 – Tue, Jan 23, 2018, 8:29 PM

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082 – Wed, Jan 24, 2018, 3:46 PM

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061 – Wed, Nov 22, 2017, 7:01 PM

031 – Fri, Sep 8, 2017 at 12:16 AM

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023 – Fri, Jul 28, 2017 at 5:18 PM

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121 – Mon, Jul 23, 2018, 9:04 PM

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106 – Fri, May 18, 2018, 6:18 PM

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107 – Sat, May 19, 2018, 2:02 PM

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075 – Tue, Jan 9, 2018, 10:04 PM

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074 – Sun, Dec 31, 2017, 7:59 PM

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090 – Sat, Feb 24, 2018, 5:12 AM

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115 – Sat, Jun 30, 2018, 1:03 AM

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058 – Tue, Nov 14, 2017, 7:10 PM

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108 – Sat, May 26, 2018, 11:02 AM

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052 – Wed, Nov 1, 2017, 8:08 PM

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037 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 3:02 PM

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116 – Sat, Jun 30, 2018, some time in the morning

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112 – Sat, Jun 16, 2018, 3:59 PM

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003 – 10w2d – A Little Bit of a Belly

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104 – Sun, May 13, 2018, 3:04 PM

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039 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 4:16 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant (Miranda Hernandez)

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034 – Mon, Sep 25, 2017 at 8:28 PM

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133 – Wed, Jul 3, 2019, 11:32 AM

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080 – Sat, Jan 20, 2018, 4:09 PM

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118 – Fri, Jul 6, 2018, 7:43 PM

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066 – Mon, Dec 11, 2017, 8:16 PM

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102 – Fri, May 11, 2018, 11:56 AM

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124 – Tue, Sep 4, 2018, 9:00 PM

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122 – Tue, Jul 24, 2018, 9:28 PM

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015 – Sun, Jul 2, 2017 at 8:19 PM

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063 – Sun, Nov 26, 2017, 9:45 AM

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136 – Thu, Sep 12, 2019, 6:40 PM

Miranda and Adrian's Elephant on the California coast (Miranda Hernandez)

068 – Sat, Dec 16, 2017, 9:55 PM

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046 – Sun, Oct 15, 2017, 8:09 PM

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036 – Tue, Sep 26, 2017 at 1:59 PM

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105 – Mon, May 14, 2018, 9:33 PM

006 – 20w0d – Are you dancing?

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059 – Wed, Nov 15, 2017, 7:52 PM

024 – Wed, Aug 2, 2017 at 6:13 PM

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084 – Thu, Feb 1, 2018, 8:44 PM

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091 – Sun, Mar 11, 2018, 1:10 PM

033 – Tue, Sep 19, 2017 at 6:35 PM

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119 – Wed, Jul 18, 2018, 1:10 PM

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132 – Mon, Jul 1, 2019, 9:45 PM

025 – Sun, Aug 6, 2017 at 12:26 AM

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137 – Tue, Dec 31, 2019, 10:01 PM

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097 – Wed, Apr 28, 2018, 11:08 PM

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110 – Sun, Jun 3, 2018, 9:11 AM

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057 – Tue, Nov 14, 2017, 6:28 PM

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047 – Thu, Oct 19, 2017, 4:54 PM

026 – Sun, Aug 13, 2017 at 6:17 AM

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101 – Sun, May 6, 2018, 12:13 AM

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027 – Mon, Aug 14, 2017 at 12:15 PM

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120 – Thu, Jul 19, 2018, 12:47 PM

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040 – Thu, Sep 28, 2017 at 5:43 PM

029 – Tue, Aug 22, 2017 at 9:50 PM

005 – 19w6d – Happy New Year

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