Thankful AND Grieving, at the Same Time
November 13, 2021
I am thankful for my daughter and also missing my son at the same time. Both feelings can exist, simultaneously.
thankful and grieving at the same time
Thinking of those who are missing this Thanksgiving (Customizable!)
November 10, 2021
Thanksgiving can be hard when you’re grieving, especially when the one who is gone is your child. These are customizable graphics you can use to honor and share about your deceased child/ren during the Thanksgiving season.
You should be thankful for the children you have
August 1, 2021
If you know a parent with both a living and deceased child, it’s something to be aware of. Because the most supportive thing you can say in that situation is to acknowledge the work that goes into raising and grieving, simultaneously.
Scripts for Bereaved Parents & Families; How to Respond to Hurtful Comments
March 14, 2021
When I was new in my grief, there were a number of situations where people said or did something and I wanted to respond, but I just didn’t have the words. Now that I am further out, I have put together a set of potential scripts to use in these situations.
Thankfulness is not a cure for grief
November 17, 2020
It is common in loss circles to talk about finding thankfulness in the life we have left. There are so many things wrong with this sentiment. The biggest problem is that it assumes the bereaved can’t be thankful and grieving at the same time. The other main problem is the unspoken assumption that thankfulness is a “cure” for grief. It isn’t.
Illness, Worry, & Reflections
November 12, 2020
I wonder, sometimes, where to draw the line between a “normal” amount of worry and the amount you feel for a child born after the death of your first. I don’t ever want to stifle her. My pain should never be her burden. And sometimes it just hits me—how much I’ve lost and also hold at the same time.
Go, Go, Pause
October 31, 2020
Do you ever find yourself in a “go go go!” pattern, and then suddenly realize you need a break? This is definitely true for me. It’s been a great month, and some days I have felt overwhelmed. I’ve also felt pretty darn thankful. You guys are an amazing community. I feel thankful for all of you.
124 – Tue, Sep 4, 2018, 9:00 PM
September 1, 2019
I’m feeling a bit “better” now. I don’t really know what that word means. But I woke up this morning, and it didn’t hurt to get out of bed.
080 – Sat, Jan 20, 2018, 4:09 PM
January 1, 2019
I live in constant fear of the person I would become if I ever chose to live without you. I’m not capable of living without you.
076 – Wed, Jan 10, 2018, 11:47 AM
January 1, 2019
A father and son play on the beach. One of them squeals, avoiding the waves. It’s a bit warmer today. I wonder if the water is cold.
29 Oct 2018 – Baby Things
October 29, 2018
When my son was stillborn at 41 weeks, I came home to a complete nursery. All of his clothes were washed and sorted, his diapers laid out next to wipes and creams. And maybe it sounds counterintuitive, but I was thankful.
12 Sep 2018 – Three Dishes
September 12, 2018
I never had to face this choice with Adrian. I never had to hold him, breathing; weigh impossible odds. I didn’t have to look into eyes gone soft and full of hurting. I didn’t get to hold his living body in my arms.
