My name is Miranda Hernandez, and I’m a bereaved mother. My firstborn child, Adrian James, was stillborn on 30 June 2017. After his death, writing was a huge part of how I honored my love and processed my grief. This blog is a collection of my thoughts on stillbirth, child loss, mental health after loss, pregnancy & parenting after loss, grief positivity, and grief support.
If you enjoy these pieces, you may also be interested in posts written as part of the Write Your Grief program, and/or in downloadable graphics available in the graphics blog. I have also written for other magazines, including Scary Mommy, Pregnancy After Loss Support Magazine, and Love What Matters.
Thank you for being here 
Miranda Hernandez, Adrian’s Mother
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2022-2025 Blog Posts
Hey, I also experienced loss… Can I exploit you now?
					
																						
			April 25, 2025		
				
					Death & Taxes and Breaking Adages
					
																						
			March 30, 2025		
				
					The Ones Behind the Scenes
					
																						
			February 28, 2025		
				
					When Life Sneaks In; Finding Joy Again in Life after Loss
					
																						
			February 29, 2024		
				
					Fuck June.
					
																						
			May 30, 2022		
				
					Sometimes Bad Things Happen
					
																						
			April 17, 2022		
				
					There is nothing wrong with ‘Dwelling’
					
																						
			January 29, 2022		
				
					2021 Blog Posts
10 Things to Say to a Loved One after the Death of their Child
					
																						
			December 22, 2021		
				
					Social media may have a bad reputation, but it’s helped me in my grief
					
																						
			December 17, 2021		
				
					You’re an absence I carry
					
																						
			December 10, 2021		
				
					Life after loss isn’t ALWAYS about grief
					
																						
			September 30, 2021		
				
					When I was overdue, this is what I wish I knew
					
																						
			June 25, 2021		
				
					My Review of Lone Star Midwives; San Antonio, Texas
					
																						
			June 22, 2021		
				
					A letter to the midwife who told me we were “fine”—
					
																						
			June 17, 2021		
				
					Here’s to the ‘Tog who Understands—
					
																						
			June 13, 2021		
				
					There’s an Elephant in the Exam Room
					
																						
			May 30, 2021		
				
					STILL a Mama Bear, and STILL Pissed
					
																						
			May 20, 2021		
				
					Motherhood
					
																						
			May 9, 2021		
				
					International Bereaved Mothers’ Day 2021
					
																						
			May 2, 2021		
				
					Identities
					
																						
			March 12, 2021		
				
					Flashes of Memory; Dressing for the Funeral
					
																						
			February 28, 2021		
				
					How Do You Get Past Losing a Baby? (Quora)
					
																						
			February 26, 2021		
				
					Imperfect Memories; the Second Blue Line
					
																						
			February 22, 2021		
				
					No, Daniel Tiger, Grown-Ups DON’T Always Come Back
					
																						
			February 5, 2021		
				
					On the Importance of Photographing Death
					
																						
			January 28, 2021		
				
					Life Thoughts from Subscription Boxes
					
																						
			January 20, 2021		
				
					2020 Blog Posts
It Doesn’t Always Have to be a NEW Beginning
					
																						
			December 31, 2020		
				
					Growing, Evolving…And Also Staying the Same
					
																						
			December 29, 2020		
				
					The Words We Use Matter
					
																						
			December 6, 2020		
				
					Illness, Worry, & Reflections
					
																						
			November 12, 2020		
				
					The Ways we Discuss when we Disagree
					
																						
			November 3, 2020		
				
					Go, Go, Pause
					
																						
			October 31, 2020		
				
					Wave of Light 2020
					
																						
			October 15, 2020		
				
					What Would You Rather Not Know? (Quora)
					
																						
			October 4, 2020		
				
					Introducing the Sea Glass Parenting Community
					
																						
			September 30, 2020		
				
					3 Years, 3 Months
					
																						
			September 30, 2020		
				
					The First Real Byline—Published in Scary Mommy
					
																						
			September 26, 2020		
				
					These are MY Words—Plagiarism in the Child Loss Community
					
																						
			September 23, 2020		
				
					Getting ready for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month
					
																						
			September 22, 2020		
				
					The Worst Part
					
																						
			July 26, 2020		
				
					The grief of not getting what you didn’t want anyway
					
																						
			July 19, 2020		
				
					Why I Support Banning Home Fetal Dopplers (Quora)
					
																						
			July 10, 2020		
				
					It’s Always 29 June; Integration in Grief
					
																						
			June 29, 2020		
				
					1 June 2020
					
																						
			June 1, 2020		
				
					Why I Didn’t “Just Adopt”
					
																						
			May 23, 2020		
				
					The Whirlwind of Pregnancy and Delivery After Loss
					
																						
			May 19, 2020		
				
					Mother’s Day 2020
					
																						
			May 10, 2020		
				
					Cranky
					
																						
			May 7, 2020		
				
					The Problem With Positivity
					
																						
			April 18, 2020		
				
					There But for Grace
					
																						
			April 17, 2020		
				
					Perspective
					
																						
			April 5, 2020		
				
					Daydreams
					
																						
			April 2, 2020		
				
					What is the Worst Sound in the World? (Quora)
					
																						
			February 18, 2020		
				
					Re-Evaluation & New Priorities after the Death of a Child
					
																						
			February 8, 2020		
				
					2019 Blog Posts
Survivor’s Bias
					
																						
			December 20, 2019		
				
					Tone
					
																						
			December 17, 2019		
				
					I Fail at Grief Olympics
					
																						
			December 7, 2019		
				
					Preventing Stillbirth Starts With Outreach
					
																						
			November 24, 2019		
				
					“It’s Not Your Fault”
					
																						
			November 20, 2019		
				
					Elephants and Well-Meaning Words – “It’s not your fault”
					
																						
			October 4, 2019		
				
					Stillbirth and Statistics: What Does it Mean to be “Rare”?
					
																						
			September 30, 2019		
				
					Imagination
					
																						
			September 26, 2019		
				
					Sea Lions
					
																						
			September 23, 2019		
				
					More Than One Spectrum
					
																						
			September 16, 2019		
				
					Awareness Isn’t Enough – Preventing Suicide Starts with Understanding
					
																						
			September 9, 2019		
				
					Baggage
					
																						
			September 6, 2019		
				
					17 August 2019
					
																						
			August 17, 2019		
				
					Sleepless
					
																						
			August 3, 2019		
				
					Charlie’s Accident
					
																						
			August 2, 2019		
				
					Two Birthdays
					
																						
			July 12, 2019		
				
					The bluntness I wish I could share where it’s needed
					
																						
			July 8, 2019		
				
					A Letter to My Son on His Second Birthday
					
																						
			June 30, 2019		
				
					#MovementsMatter, Today and Always
					
																						
			June 18, 2019		
				
					First
					
																						
			June 17, 2019		
				
					Paperwork and Taxes
					
																						
			June 15, 2019		
				
					Pregnancy after Loss & Peanut’s Birth Story
					
																						
			June 12, 2019		
				
					Third Mother’s Day
					
																						
			May 12, 2019		
				
					Warning Signs Prior to Adrian’s Stillbirth
					
																						
			April 23, 2019		
				
					Sometimes I DO want to give up, and you can’t “fix” that
					
																						
			April 11, 2019		
				
					My experience with the 4th Trimester Bodies Project
					
																						
			April 10, 2019		
				
					Midnight; Memories of Loss & Grief
					
																						
			April 10, 2019		
				
					Pregnancy After Loss; A Parable
					
																						
			April 3, 2019		
				
					My experience as a pseudo-rainbow baby
					
																						
			April 2, 2019		
				
					“Strong”
					
																						
			March 28, 2019		
				
					Understanding
					
																						
			March 28, 2019		
				
					Dear Nature-Based Childbirth Educator
					
																						
			March 14, 2019		
				
					Pleasant Surprise
					
																						
			March 8, 2019		
				
					Why Getting Pregnant Easily Isn’t a Gift
					
																						
			March 6, 2019		
				
					Boomerang
					
																						
			March 6, 2019		
				
					A Letter to My Mental Health Coordinator
					
																						
			March 1, 2019		
				
					The Slowest Kind of Panic
					
																						
			February 19, 2019		
				
					Is Stillbirth really “Rare”? What does “Rare” even Mean?
					
																						
			February 15, 2019		
				
					The Fork in the Road
					
																						
			February 11, 2019		
				
					Grieving My Child Without God
					
																						
			February 10, 2019		
				
					This Timeline
					
																						
			February 10, 2019		
				
					Echoes; Reminders & Memories in Pregnancy After Loss
					
																						
			February 5, 2019		
				
					It’s Not About the Sunscreen
					
																						
			February 5, 2019		
				
					Necessary Fear
					
																						
			February 4, 2019		
				
					Why I am celebrating every moment of this current pregnancy
					
																						
			February 1, 2019		
				
					Please stop telling me everything is going to be “fine”
					
																						
			January 27, 2019		
				
					The Story of Amy Anne
					
																						
			January 26, 2019		
				
					Claddagh Ring
					
																						
			January 20, 2019		
				
					My Daughter is Not a Rainbow; My Son was Not a Storm
					
																						
			January 20, 2019		
				
					Yoga on a Saturday
					
																						
			January 19, 2019		
				
					Hard Day
					
																						
			January 14, 2019		
				
					Waiting Rooms
					
																						
			January 13, 2019		
				
					8 January 2019; Two Years of Memories and Looking to the Future
					
																						
			January 8, 2019		
				
					Grief Isn’t a Disease; That Quote from “The Interpreter”
					
																						
			January 5, 2019		
				
					1 January 2019
					
																						
			January 1, 2019		
				
					2018 Blog Posts
22 July 2018; Life is Hard but I’m Trying
					
																						
			July 22, 2018		
				
					Friday the 13th
					
																						
			July 13, 2018		
				
					11 July 2018; Memories of Adrian’s Funeral
					
																						
			July 11, 2018		
				
					Not Okay
					
																						
			July 8, 2018		
				
					Second Eulogy
					
																						
			June 30, 2018		
				
					A Letter to My Son on His First Birthday
					
																						
			June 30, 2018		
				
					18 June 2018, 8:47 pm; Living in the Calendar after Loss
					
																						
			June 18, 2018		
				
					Not Fucking Fair
					
																						
			June 7, 2018		
				
					Home
					
																						
			May 28, 2018		
				
					Sunrise
					
																						
			May 21, 2018		
				
					My Seventh Trimester Body
					
																						
			May 4, 2018		
				
					Birth
					
																						
			April 25, 2018		
				
					Equidistance
					
																						
			March 30, 2018		
				
					San Diego
					
																						
			March 18, 2018		
				
					A Letter to the Woman Who Wants the “Perfect Natural Birth”
					
																						
			February 27, 2018		
				
					I AM a Mother, Even after my Child is Gone
					
																						
			February 23, 2018		
				
					Humor
					
																						
			January 22, 2018		
				
					Everything Happens.
					
																						
			January 15, 2018		
				
					Nature Isn’t Perfect
					
																						
			January 15, 2018		
				
					Second Hand
					
																						
			January 14, 2018		
				
					Desire
					
																						
			January 14, 2018		
				
					Sea Shells
					
																						
			January 10, 2018		
				
					Signs
					
																						
			January 10, 2018		
				
					Life
					
																						
			January 4, 2018		
				
					2017 Blog Posts
I Drink a Lot of Tea
					
																						
			December 23, 2017		
				
					I Miss My Phone
					
																						
			December 2, 2017		
				
					I woke up out of a sound sleep with these words on my lips
					
																						
			December 2, 2017		
				
					Favorite Holiday
					
																						
			November 23, 2017		
				
					On Sunlight and Strength
					
																						
			November 11, 2017		
				
					What Happens When a Type A Personality Grieves
					
																						
			November 5, 2017		
				
					Dear Pregnant Woman in My Office
					
																						
			November 1, 2017		
				
					29 October 2017
					
																						
			October 29, 2017		
				
					30 September 2017; I Will Always Love His Name
					
																						
			September 30, 2017		
				
					 
				 
															





































































































































































