
Miranda's Blog
Thoughts of a Bereaved Mother on Stillbirth, Grief, & Life After Loss
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Miranda's Blog
Thoughts of a Bereaved Mother on Stillbirth, Grief, & Life After Loss
My name is Miranda Hernandez, and I’m a bereaved mother. My firstborn child, Adrian James, was stillborn on 30 June 2017. After his death, writing was a huge part of how I honored my love and processed my grief. This blog is a collection of my thoughts on stillbirth, child loss, mental health after loss, pregnancy & parenting after loss, grief positivity, and grief support.
If you enjoy these pieces, you may also be interested in posts written as part of the Write Your Grief program, and/or in downloadable graphics available in the graphics blog. I have also written for other magazines, including Scary Mommy, Pregnancy After Loss Support Magazine, and Pursue Today.
Thank you for being here
Miranda Hernandez, Adrian’s Mother
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2021 Blog Posts
Identities
March 12, 2021
Flashes of Memory; Dressing for the Funeral
February 28, 2021
How Do You Get Past Losing a Baby? (Quora)
February 26, 2021
Imperfect Memories; the Second Blue Line
February 22, 2021
Still/Always
February 15, 2021
I have a bone to pick with you, Daniel Tiger
February 5, 2021
1 in 160 is NOT “Rare”
January 31, 2021
Life Thoughts from Subscription Boxes
January 20, 2021
2020 Blog Posts
It Doesn’t Always Have to be a NEW Beginning
December 31, 2020
Growing, Evolving…And Also Staying the Same
December 29, 2020
The Words We Use Matter
December 6, 2020
Illness, Worry, & Reflections
November 12, 2020
The Ways we Discuss when we Disagree
November 3, 2020
Go, Go, Pause
October 31, 2020
What Would You Rather Not Know? (Quora)
October 4, 2020
Introducing the Sea Glass Parenting Community
September 30, 2020
3 Years, 3 Months
September 30, 2020
The First Real Byline
September 26, 2020
These are MY Words – Plagiarism in the Child Loss Community
September 23, 2020
Getting ready for Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month
September 22, 2020
The Worst Part
July 26, 2020
The grief of not getting what you didn’t want anyway
July 19, 2020
Why I Support Banning Home Fetal Dopplers (Quora)
July 10, 2020
It’s Always 29 June; Integration in Grief
June 29, 2020
1 June 2020
June 1, 2020
Why I Didn’t “Just Adopt”
May 23, 2020
The Whirlwind of Pregnancy and Delivery After Loss
May 19, 2020
Happy Mother’s Day
May 10, 2020
Always Two
May 9, 2020
Cranky
May 7, 2020
The Problem With Positivity
April 18, 2020
There But for Grace
April 17, 2020
Perspective
April 5, 2020
Daydreams
April 2, 2020
Images
March 30, 2020
Waiting
March 14, 2020
What is the Worst Sound in the World? (Quora)
February 18, 2020
Re-Evaluation
February 8, 2020
2019 Blog Posts
Survivor’s Bias
December 20, 2019
Tone
December 17, 2019
I Fail at Grief Olympics
December 7, 2019
Preventing Stillbirth Starts With Outreach
November 24, 2019
“It’s Not Your Fault”
November 20, 2019
Requests of a bereaved mother for all prenatal providers
October 15, 2019
Wave of Light 2019
October 15, 2019
Elephants and Well-Meaning Words
October 4, 2019
Stillbirth and Statistics: What Does it Mean to be “Rare”?
September 30, 2019
Imagination
September 26, 2019
Sea Lions
September 23, 2019
More Than One Spectrum
September 16, 2019
Awareness Isn’t Enough – Preventing Suicide Starts with Understanding
September 9, 2019
Baggage
September 6, 2019
17 August 2019
August 17, 2019
Sleepless
August 3, 2019
Charlie’s Accident
August 2, 2019
Two Birthdays
July 12, 2019
The bluntness I wish I could share where it’s needed
July 8, 2019
A Letter to My Son on His Second Birthday
June 30, 2019
30 June 2019
June 30, 2019
#MovementsMatter
June 18, 2019
First
June 17, 2019
Paperwork and Taxes
June 15, 2019
13 June 2019
June 12, 2019
Third Mother’s Day
May 12, 2019
More Than 8 Things
April 29, 2019
Warning Signs Prior to Adrian’s Stillbirth
April 23, 2019
Sometimes I DO want to give up, and you can’t fix that
April 11, 2019
My experience with the 4th Trimester Bodies Project
April 10, 2019
Midnight
April 10, 2019
Pregnancy After Loss; A Parable
April 3, 2019
My experience as a pseudo-rainbow baby
April 2, 2019
Strong
March 28, 2019
Understanding
March 28, 2019
Dear Nature-Based Childbirth Educator
March 14, 2019
Pleasant Surprise
March 8, 2019
Why Getting Pregnant Easily Isn’t a Gift
March 6, 2019
Boomerang
March 6, 2019
A Letter to My Mental Health Coordinator
March 1, 2019
The Slowest Kind of Panic
February 19, 2019
Stillbirth and Statistics (Old Version)
February 15, 2019
“If She Dies, I Die”
February 12, 2019
The Fork in the Road
February 11, 2019
Grieving My Child Without God
February 10, 2019
This Timeline
February 10, 2019
Echoes
February 5, 2019
It’s Not About the Sunscreen
February 5, 2019
Necessary Fear
February 4, 2019
Why I am celebrating every moment of this current pregnancy
February 1, 2019
Please stop telling me everything is going to be “fine”
January 27, 2019
The Story of Amy Anne
January 26, 2019
Claddagh Ring
January 20, 2019
My Daughter is Not a Rainbow; My Son was Not a Storm
January 20, 2019
Yoga on a Saturday
January 19, 2019
Hard Day
January 14, 2019
Waiting Rooms
January 13, 2019
8 January 2019
January 8, 2019
Grief Isn’t a Disease
January 5, 2019
1 January 2019
January 1, 2019
2018 Blog Posts
22 July 2018
July 22, 2018
Friday the 13th
July 13, 2018
11 July 2018
July 11, 2018
Not Okay
July 8, 2018
Second Eulogy
June 30, 2018
A Letter to My Son on His First Birthday
June 30, 2018
28 June 2018, 8:55pm
June 28, 2018
22 June 2018, 9:01am
June 22, 2018
21 June 2018, 4:58pm
June 21, 2018
18 June 2018, 8:47 pm
June 18, 2018
Not Fucking Fair
June 7, 2018
Home
May 28, 2018
Sunrise
May 21, 2018
My Seventh Trimester Body
May 4, 2018
Birth
April 25, 2018
Equidistance
March 30, 2018
San Diego
March 18, 2018
A Letter to the Woman Who Wants the “Perfect Birth”
February 27, 2018
I am a Mother
February 23, 2018
Humor
January 22, 2018
Everything Happens.
January 15, 2018
Nature Isn’t Perfect
January 15, 2018
Second Hand
January 14, 2018
Desire
January 14, 2018
Sea Shells
January 10, 2018
Signs
January 10, 2018
Life
January 4, 2018
2017 Blog Posts
Pre-Pregnancy Jeans
December 29, 2017
I Drink a of Tea
December 23, 2017
I Miss My Phone
December 2, 2017
I woke up out of a sound sleep with these words on my lips
December 2, 2017
Favorite Holiday
November 23, 2017
On Sunlight and Strength
November 11, 2017
Things I Didn’t Get to Say
November 10, 2017
What Happens When a Type A Personality Grieves
November 5, 2017
Dear Pregnant Woman in My Office
November 1, 2017
29 October 2017
October 29, 2017
30 September 2017
September 30, 2017