Dear friends and family of the bereaved,
Our culture is weird. Grief is hard, and although death is universal, it’s also something we don’t generally talk about. When my son died, many of those closest to me said and did some really (well-intentioned but) stupid things. I don’t blame them; they were working with what they knew. I do want to make things better for those who follow.
This page is intended to be a living resource to help you better understand in order to support your loved one(s) after the loss of a child. Please read, ask questions, and then be there for the ones you love. The absolute worst thing you can do — is nothing.
Thank you for being here,
The Experience of Child Loss; a Guide for Friends and Family of the Bereaved (planned article)
Requests of a Bereaved Mother for Friends and Family of the Bereaved (planned article)
AJH Official Comment Policy; AKA Things Not to Say to or about the Bereaved
Items of Interest from elsewhere in this site:
Miranda’s Blog: Understanding
Miranda’s Blog: Everything Happens
Miranda’s Blog: Strong
Miranda’s Blog: The Problem with Positivity (needs to be posted)
Miranda’s Blog: Why I Choose to Share Photos of my Dead Child on Social Media (needs to be posted)
Miranda’s Blog: Sometimes I DO want to give up, and you can’t fix that
Miranda’s Blog: Elephants and Well-Meaning Words (needs to be posted)
Miranda’s Blog: Things We Don’t Want to Be True
Miranda’s Blog: The bluntness I wish I could share where it’s needed
Miranda’s Blog: Please stop telling me everything is going to be “fine”
Write Your Grief: This is How I Feel About Life
Write Your Grief: I Love You. Please.
Write Your Grief: The Nuclear Bomb
Write Your Grief: The Nuclear Bomb Part 2
Miranda’s Blog: Two Birthdays
Miranda’s Blog: Why you shouldn’t ask a bereaved parent if they plan to “try again” (needs to be posted)
Miranda’s Blog: Why I Didn’t “Just Adopt” (needs to be posted)
Miranda’s Blog: My Daughter is not a Rainbow; My Son was not a Storm
Please also spend some time exploring the rest of the Write Your Grief pieces and other blogs about child loss for insight into the general experience of grief.
Are there additional items or subject areas you would like to see covered? Please comment below or contact me.