I’ve been enamored with the 4th Trimester Bodies Project for years. A coworker’s wife participated with both of her sons, and I loved how open she was with her images. It was such a message of beauty and reality and massive acceptance. I planned when I saw it to participate myself after my first child was born. And then he died.
I don’t know why I didn’t think I could participate after that. There was definitely no rule against it. I actually found out later the project creator was a loss parent too. The only thing I can think is that grief scrambles your brain sometimes. I was also just really sad.
When I started to wake up again, I looked up the project, and realized I could participate. And I emailed Ash, and I signed up, and this past weekend, I flew to Chicago and did it. And it was one of my most beautiful experiences.