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Graphics Blog for Informed Pregnancy
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Sometimes there is genuinely nothing to be thankful for.

Sometimes there is nothing to be thankful for

Sometimes, no matter how hard we look, there is genuinely nothing to be thankful for. That’s not a failing; it’s just life.

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Positivity is a choice, and not one you can make for other people

Positivity is a choice, and not one you can make for other people

Positivity is a choice, and it’s important that it remains an individual one. You can’t force other people to feel positive; you can only make them feel bad about feeling differently.

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I miss the days when I still believed all you needed was a good attitude.

I miss the days when I still believed all you needed was a good attitude

Before Adrian died, I was a relatively positive person. His death shattered my belief and confidence in the ultimate goodness of the world.

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Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

“A Stillborn”

Adrian was born at 9lb 0oz. He had a funeral. He HAS a name. I didn’t have a “stillborn”; I had a stillborn CHILD. He is and always will be a human being.

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informed pregnancy graphics babies come when they're ready

“Babies come when they’re ready” (3 versions)

When I was pregnant for the first time, I heard that babies come when they’re ready, and so I allowed my pregnancy to go overdue. I wish I had known this wasn’t always true

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"But you have a beautiful daughter now." Rewritten: I'm sorry for your loss.

“But You Have a Beautiful Daughter Now”

People often point to living children as a reason for bereaved parents not to grieve. This is of course ridiculous. All children are precious. All children will be mourned. I could have 100 babies after the loss of the son. He will always be part of me.

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"Grief is a passage, not a place to stay." Rewritten: Grief IS.

“Grief is a Passage”

I’ve seen this quote in many places, and it has always felt wrong to me. Especially if we acknowledge grief as tied intrinsically to love, then we understand that grief CAN’T be a passage; grief simply IS.

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"Healing" from grief is about as likely as regrowing a missing limb.

“Healing” from Grief

We talk about grief and healing, but what does that even mean? Is it possible to heal from grief, or is it something you incorporate, and carry forever?

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"Healing" from grief is about as likely as regrowing a missing limb.

“Healing” from the death of my loved one or child (2 versions)

People talk about healing after the loss of a loved one, but what does that mean? Do we truly heal, or do we incorporate? Do we ever leave that death behind? I believe “healing” from the death of my child is about as likely as re-growing a missing limb.

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I can't imagine - Downloadable Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

“I can’t imagine” (3 versions)

When I talk about Adrian’s death, I often hear the words, “I can’t imagine.” I feel like that’s a cop-out. Of course you can imagine. It’s just scary.

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"I know how you feel." Rewritten: I don't know how you feel, but I'm here to listen.

“I know how you feel” (2 versions)

Humans are hardwired to find points of comparison. It’s how we build community. It makes us feel less alone. In some cases, though, comparison feels minimizing. This is especially the case in loss.. Here are 2 alternatives to the phrase, “I know how you feel”

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"I would never survive it." I never had a choice.

“I would never survive it”

The loss of a child feels unimaginable, and so when people hear my story, they often say, “I would never survive it.” I don’t think most people consider that I didn’t have a choice. The only other option in my world was to end my life; and while I certainly considered it, it’s not something we want to turn into a throw-away statement.

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"It's going to be okay" Rewritten: It really sucks…and I'm here for you.

“It’s going to be okay” (2 versions)

It’s instinct to want to reassure, but there is no reassurance to be had after loss. Please don’t tell the bereaved everything will be okay. Sometimes it just needs to hurt. These are 2 options to say instead of “It’s going to be okay”

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"It's okay to not be okay as long as you don't stay that way" Rewritten: It's okay to not be okay.

“It’s okay to not be okay as long as you don’t stay that way” (color options)

I have heard this statement in numerous places: “It’s okay to not be okay as long as you don’t stay that way.” I disagree. Why do we put a time limit on reality? I think it’s only when we recognize that all feelings are valid, that we finally have the space we need to make genuine change. And even then, that change is optional. It has to be.

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"Look on the Bright Side." Rewritten: This sucks.

“Look on the bright side”

It’s common for outsiders to tell the hurt and bereaved to look on the bright side or find the silver lining in their grief. This is ridiculous. Sometimes it just needs to suck.

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"Positive vibes only."...Rewritten: Authentic vibes only.

“Positive Vibes Only”

“Positive vibes only” sounds like a great message, but it unfortunately acts as erasure of the full emotional spectrum. Authenticity is always preferable.

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Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility. Rewritten: Trauma is not your fault.

“Trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility”

This meme has been floating around for a while, and I honestly can’t stand it. Trauma is not your fault, period. Healing is never an obligation.

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Why don't you "just"… Rewritten: Just don't say this

“Why don’t you “just”…”

Unsolicited advice is the bane of anyone’s existence, but people often feel comfortable telling the bereaved what to do. Please don’t.

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"You're so brave." I never had a choice.

“You’re so brave”

It is common to tell the bereaved they are brave. But what does this mean? Is it brave to have lived through tragedy when you never had a choice?

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"You're so strong." Inside I am dying.

“You’re so strong” (3 versions)

It is common to tell the bereaved they are strong. But is this a description, or a command? And what if the bereaved feel differently?. These are 3 different responses to the comment, “You’re so strong”

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Bereaved Life Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

Bereaved Live in the Real World

Sometimes I feel like the bereaved live in the real world and everyone else lives in the fantasy. It’s the only way the world makes sense.

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Dear Prenatal Provider Informed Pregnancy Downloadable Graphics

Dear Prenatal Provider

When I was pregnant for the first time, I had no idea stillbirth was a realistic possibility; certainly not something that happened in 1 out of 160 pregnancies. Please educate your patients on the stats, risks, and warning signs. We deserve this information.

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Death changes you…Permanently.

Death Changes You

The death of my son changed me as a person more than any other event in my lifetime. Death does that. Death changes you. Permanently.

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Gentle wishes for bereaved dads on Fathers Day. May the day be kind.

Father’s Day

Fathers Day 2020: Gentle wishes for bereaved dads on Father’s Day. May the Day be Kind.

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You are under no obligation to be healed not today, and not at any point in the future. It is always always ALWAYS okay not to be okay.

Feelings are Always Valid (color options)

Pain and grief can make outsiders uncomfortable, and sometimes they may urge you to heal and be your positive self again. This is a reminder that you are always allowed to feel however you need to.

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Forced positivity is toxic.

Forced Positivity is Toxic (color options)

Positivity is and has to be an individual choice. Forced positivity, then, becomes toxic. People are individuals and attitudes must be determined internally

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"Good intentions" are best revealed by changing behavior you've been told is hurtful.

Good intentions

We are often asked to consider the intentions of our loved ones when they say or do something hurtful in our lives. But please remember: “Good intentions” are best revealed by changing behavior you’ve been told is hurtful.

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Grief isn't sadness. Grief isn't loss. Grief is what lives in those left behind. 

Grief is not Sadness (2 versions)

Grief is often confused with sadness, or even depression. But grief isn’t sadness, and sadness is only one facet of grief.

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If a bereaved parent feels guilt or blame about their loss, simply telling them not to feel that way is not a solution.

Guilt, Fault, & Blame

If a bereaved parent feels guilt or blame about their loss, simply telling them not to feel that way is not a solution. Feelings don’t work that way.

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I too used to believe tragedy was the thing that happened to other people.

I too used to believe tragedy was the thing that happened to other people.

Before Adrian died, I always thought of tragedy and loss as something that happened to OTHER people, but not to me. Of course I feel differently now.

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If you truly want to comfort a grieving person, remove these words from your vocabulary: "But", "Strong", "Brave", and "At Least"

If you truly want to comfort a bereaved person, remove these words from your vocabulary

If you genuinely want to comfort a grieving person, remove these words from your vocabulary: “But”, “Strong”, “Brave”, and “At Least”

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My Experience Going Overdue in Pregnancy (Brochure)

I chose to go overdue in my first pregnancy, believing labor was best when it happened naturally. These printable brochures talk about my experience.

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My Feelings are Authentic Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

My Feelings Are Authentic (color options)

My feelings are authentic. I will not hide how I feel just because it makes someone else uncomfortable. Feelings are always valid.

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My pain has a purpose Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

My pain has a purpose

I understand your intentions in wanting to take away my pain. It’s hard to see someone you love hurting. It’s hard to acknowledge there’s nothing you can do. What I need you to understand: (My) pain has a purpose. It speaks to the love I hold for my child. In seeking to take it away, you take away my love as well. You take away ME.

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What is safe is not always natural & What is natural is not always safe.

Natural VS. Safe

We hear a lot about the power of nature and avoiding things that are heavily processed to keep ourselves safe. I think it is important to remember: What is safe is not always natural & What is natural is not always safe.

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Quote: Sharing about my deceased child doesn't mean that I'm stuck or broken or even that I am hurting. It simply means I am a parent.

Parenting in Loss (color options)

Sharing about my deceased child doesn’t mean that I’m stuck or broken or even that I am hurting. It simply means I am a parent.

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how are you? Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

Please don’t ask me how I’m doing unless you’re prepared to hear the truth

I never really considered that question, “How are you?” until after the death of my son. And then it became the bane of my day. Please don’t ask me how I’m doing unless you’re prepared to hear the truth.

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Prayer Is Appreciated…When it has been invited

Prayer is appreciated…when it has been invited

After Adrian died, many people close to me offered to pray. I generally don’t find comfort in thoughts of a higher power myself, but I understand the desire to want to pray as a means to demonstrate care. If you are ask permission before offering prayer, it is generally going to be okay. I certainly appreciate the intentions behind it, especially when paired with consent.

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Sometimes it just needs to suck.

Sometimes it Just Needs to Suck

It feels like we are conditioned to look on the bright side of every dark situation, but sometimes there isn’t one. Sometimes, things just need to suck

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Sometimes, I'm just tired Graphics for Child Loss & Grief

Sometimes, I’m just — tired

Sometimes; some days, I am just — tired. An exhaustion that goes beyond the surface. An exhaustion that is more than just physical.

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Graphics for Child Loss & Grief survivors bias

Stillbirth is “Rare” (multiple versions)

In the United States today, 1 in 160 pregnancies ends in the death of the child at or after 20 weeks gestation. This is not rare. This is in fact a freaking emergency.

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Graphics for Child Loss & Grief survivors bias

Survivor’s Bias

Survivor’s bias is a logical fallacy that equates the experience of those who survived an experience with “proof” that such an experience is safe.

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Thankfulness is not a "cure" for grief.

Thankfulness is not a “Cure” for Grief (color options)

It is common in loss circles to talk about finding thankfulness in the life we have left. There are so many things wrong with this statement. The biggest problem is that it assumes the bereaved can’t be thankful and grieving at the same time. The other main problem is the unspoken assumption that thankfulness is a “cure” for grief.

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There is no "just" about the process of adoption

There is no “just” about the process of adoption

Adoption is often held up as the “solution” to the “problems” of both child loss and grief. This is an unfortunate misunderstanding and oversimplification. Adoption is a beautiful thing. It is not, however, easy or automatic, or guaranteed. There is definitely no “just” about the process.

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Tragedy is not a one-time event

Tragedy is not a one-time event

Tragedy is not a one-time event. It happens over and over again–every morning; every milestone; every holiday. Every new experience is touched by the loss. In every experience, something is missing.

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Quote: You may find it "triggering" to hear about the death of my child. Imagine how much harder it is to live with it.

Trigger Warning

You may find it “triggering” to hear about the death of my child. Imagine how much harder it is to live with it.

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What doesn't kill you…Still hurts like a bitch

What doesn’t kill you… (3 versions)

We’ve always been told that what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger, but I don’t think this makes sense. Sometimes, the things that don’t kill us immediately still affect us strongly in other ways.

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You are under no obligation to be healed not today, and not at any point in the future. It is always always ALWAYS okay not to be okay.

You are under no obligation to be healed

You are under no obligation to be healed. Not today, and not at any point in the future. It is always always ALWAYS okay not to be okay.

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